Getting Started

New posts, many featuring references to old posts, about wanting to get into the business and what you might do while you’re there.

The Accidental Hooker on Prostitution as The New Temp Job

…in a time of relaxed social mores and rising student loan debt, there are an increasing number of young women who see escorting as a way out of their respective situations, and perhaps even a fun and exciting temp job.

The English Courtesan has started a new series of articles on setting up shop as an escort.

‘Social escorting’ doesn’t exist…Similarly travel companions are not usually booked for either travel or companionship. That’s not to say you don’t need social or companion skills to be an escort or courtesan, and there are many clients who do want decent pillow talk and amusing conversation or who are looking for a travel companion who offers concierge services with a sexual twist. A lot of clients want a genuine and affectionate long-term rapport with an escort who is more than a cardboard cut-out and kindness and courtesy are immensely important, in this as in many things. Yet 70-80% of what you do, at least for the first few months or possibly years, will be sex. So if you don’t like sex then this isn’t the business for you.

Classic posts from Gillette on the why of courtesanship.

Being clear on why and how I want to operate is the foundation of everything I would do. I think of it as kind of like my mission statement. It determines how I operate in the relationship, advertise, set up my parameters for screening, setting rates or goals for income, etc.

And for those of us whose literary endeavors go hand in hand with time on our backs, Nia Dark and Lovely has a series of interviews with sex-worker bloggers. The latest is Caitie Mae, but scroll down for several more.


The Sex Workers’ Art Show

A journal on a feminist blog about traveling with the Sex Workers’ Art Show:

The Student by Day/ Sex Worker by Night figure is as much a stereotype as The Happy Hooker; however, for several years I led this double life. My clients knew I was a student, it seemed to ease their guilt and even excite them but as a safe measure I always lied about which campus I attended. At school, I created a false after-school job to deceive my peers. When I signed up to tour with the Sex Workers’ Art Show I knew I’d be spending a month with burlesque dancer Julie Atlas Muz, homo hop artist Juba Kalamka, dancer/singer Simone De La Getto, author Michelle Tea, sex work matriarch Scarlot Harlot, performance artist Bridget Irish, the tour’s founder and director Annie Oakley, and three roadies. I knew we’d live out of suitcases. I knew about the long hours in the tour van. What surprised me was that fifteen of our twenty-eight shows were on college campuses. My double life was about to merge. Could sex work and student life actually come together?


Amanda Brooks on the Radio

Amanda Brooks was recently interviewed on Libertarian Politics Live, an Internet radio show. You can download the show here.

Amanda writes:
“The show is a full hour and we will be discussing the DC Madam scandal, as well as the essentially victimless crime of consensual adult activity – paid or unpaid. And anything else that sounds interesting.

For some background on host Eric Dondero, you can visit his main site:

I hope to provide entertainment and stimulation (of the mental kind). “


Updated Blogroll

As we settle in to our new quarters here at Blogspot, we’ve redone the blogroll, making the categories more relevant and easy to access, as well as recategorizing dead and dying links.

Your Guide:

Cream of the Crop – these blogs are current, well-written, updated regularly and of significant interest. We’ll be featuring articles and links to these blogs regularly. Most of them are double-listed in their appropriate category below.

Working Girls and Boys – separated into North America and UK/Europe, these are blogs that promote the author’s sex work. Some authors are bookable through their blogs or through sites linked to their blogs. This category also includes Dommes.

Cliterati – blogs with a primarily literary focus, writing on sex, sexuality, and sex worker topics.

Sexplorers – women and men exploring their own sexuality, but who are not primarily sex workers.

Resources – websites and blogs with relevant information for sex workers and their clients.

Media – magazines, alternative papers and blogs that deal with topics of interest to sex workers and their clients.

Activists – Pro-woman and pro-sex-worker writers and sites.

Books and Articles – of interest to sex workers and their clients.

Dying Blogs – Have not been updated in 60 days.

We’ll also be occasionally featuring working girl personal advertising sites that are purely self-promotional rather than having literary merit, as it can be useful and interesting to see what’s going on in the field. If you have a favorite working girl ad site (independents only, please – we’ll take an agency only if it’s truly unique and special) that you think we’d all learn from, please submit!

Changing Addresses

OK – basically, as a busy person who also maintains other blogs, I don’t have the time and energy to learn how to use WordPress. So Courtesan Connection is moving to Blogspot, where I can get with the program and do weekly updates with joy and a right good will instead of dreading logging in and not understanding anything here or being able to get it to work.  I think the moving-related trauma will be more than compensated for by becoming a lively, active blog.

 This blog address will stay up for at least four more months to make sure everyone gets the message – I’ll also be contacting everyone on the blogroll about the change, so that the word gets out.

 Thanks, all, for your patience and see you at